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The majority of us didn’t think the breathtakingly human Chandra Dreskell, our family friend, would accessorize with lace wigs. Her terrific hair added so much to impeccable style. Have you seen her lately? The woman is still the center of attention for her hair. Not many in town even care that she confidently masks her medical hair loss under human hair wigs. Guess it’s no secret anymore.

When we were youths finding our way in high school, we always stole the spotlights to every dance. Then her hair loss started acting up and she became nearly bald. I mentioned some synthetic wigs. But you know, it didn’t matter much. Undeterred by her hair loss, she took the time and demonstrated her shaved head.

Obliged to show at her fiance’s rugby game, we flirted with the crowd till her beau purposefully kicked the ball (or however you say it) into the stands. Such a sport, she jumped up for it and her bandana fell off, uncovering her hair (or lack thereof). Undisturbed, she walked over and delivered it back to the field. What’d I tell ya about her spunk?

That said, everyone has insecurities. The same summer she invited me over for a stroll to the art gallery, the day she grabbed my arm and informed me that she opts to make do with a shorn head out of bitterness. She loved her old hair so much she can’t even spend money on human hair wigs, secretly acknowledging she wanted her hair back. And who would have thought our fearless protagonist stopped talking and asked that I drop it. I had to oblige.

I wanted to help so bad. Shortly after, I IM’d with her about taking care of this wig problem. Eventually the two of us arrived at the obvious conclusion: we were going wig shopping! Wigs for the both of us, on me!

We had a great time, floored by the wide selection of hair colors, textures and styles. I never imagined that lace front wigs are vital to fashion for so many women. These lace wigs complimented her natural beauty. I put together a completely creative set of outfits to wear with our wigs. We’re inseparable, and that will surely endure. Not long ago she sent me her thanks for her human hand-crafted human hair wig, and explained it rekindles a lost identity in her life. It’s delightful to realize little miss attitude strut her stuff like never before. She’s a better person, with the same confidence.

Rarely do we see youths & young adults during their early 20’s with spots of hair missing from their heads. The majority of hair loss in men arises in their 30’s and 40’s, although it isn’t irregular from men in their late 20’s to drop hair as well. The apprehension of aging is dreaded amongst today’s society. Where aging was once a symbol of enlightenment and insight, it is now generally looked upon as if the older you are, the more uninteresting people become. All this is certainly not TRUE in most cases. However, since this is how the media & modern society portrays middle aged men & women, and losing hair is a symbol of getting older, it is no wonder that hair loss might well affect someone’s confidence.

TV shows generally portray middle aged men with hair loss as the people most doubtful to succeed with obtaining dates, or being happy in general. The character George Costanza of NBC’s hit TV show, Seinfeld, is one perfect example of this. Costanza was in his late 30’s and endured exemplar male pattern hair loss. He quite often referred to his hair loss as one of his largest excuses for never succeeding at almost everything in life. Men & women alike both enjoy a tendency to feel self conscious, especially when it comes to the opposite sex. In our culture, a dense, luscious, head of hair is acknowledged to be appealing, and make one look more youthful & healthy.

Current technology is most useful in curing hair loss. Advanced hair restoration treatments are available to restore one’s hair & make it look completely natural as if you had not lost hair to begin with. It is not necessary in this era and age to have to settle with hair loss. Your quality of life doesn’t have to be changed with low confidence when there are so loads of advanced hair restoration treatments to choose from. Whether a prescription drug, modern remedy, follicle transplants, or laser therapy, there are many options that will fit any budgets.

Hair loss treatments are now exceedingly popular and tried out by both men & female. Folks who have lost their hair due to cancer & have found it is never to grow back can sometimes benefit from advanced hair therapy. Even if one are not entirely losing hair, but suffer from a receding hair line or their hair is thinning, they might benefit from an array of hair loss treatments. The times of counting on fake looking wigs & spray on hair are history. With so countless selections of different hair loss therapeutics, one no longer have to live life feeling any less confident than they did in your early 20’s.

I ignore my emotions, but its hard to date at my age. Here’s the scoup, this morning I ate a whole bag of Oreos. As a coping mechanism of loneliness, of course. I pretend to be ashamed about it. Am I crazy? Honestly, it’s when I initially looked into singles events in my new hometown.

Easy solution. Figured I’d boost my dating life thru Great Expectations Denver Dating Service. And it turned out to be my golden ticket. My dating life is worth bringing up. When I was a little tipsy at my boy’s t-ball game at Oak Park two weeks ago, Mom had to know if I’ve found a special lady. I just can’t believe that came up. So, I said, “I’m eating here, and no.”

Can you believe that even Gramps chimed in along the lines of true relationships. I joked to the whole group: “Dating isn’t for me, but what do you know about dating?”

How can they be so rude? No one knew what I was talking about, as usual. Perturbed, I went to the gym in hopes this loneliness would all go away. That didn’t help! I didn’t learn a thing. Doug, who wrote to me from Egypt, recommended that I browse the singles profiles at Great Expectations. I said, “That’s what I was going to do.” But it really was a good idea. I am truly grateful for this dating service full of fun and desirable Dallas singles.

Early on, singles events and mixers were a novel thing because I’m a traditionalist of sorts. I was a bit nervous at first, that my hands started sweating. This faux pas did not bring an end to another incredible Great Expectations event. The night was bursting with excitement. The host was incredible and I’ll always remember the attractive, single women.

Afterwards, I realized why so many people show up to these amazing Dallas singles nights with Great Expectations, I ran into a collection of dynamite friends that obviously have similar ideas while being in this kind of fun, sophisticated company. I really shouldn’t allow my family get me down about living the bachelor’s life after all these years. Surprisingly enough, doing things with Great Expectations is a lot of fun and care-free social experience.

Robert

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“Through perseverance many people win success out of what seemed destined to be certain failure.”
- Benjamin Disraeli (1804 - 1881) - British Statesman, Prime Minister

Let’s face it: life is tough. And guess what? It will only get tougher. So much for the facts. The question remains: will you rise to the occasion and meet the day-to-day challenges, head on, undaunted and without complaint? In essence, will you persevere? This is a question asked by Kirk Charles, America’s top motivational writer and speaker.

In the journey of life, perseverance is a virtue we all need to achieve greatness. One person that is often quoted for his perseverance is Abraham Lincoln. This is what Chief Bola Ige, Nigeria late Minister of Justice said of the two-time American President in his book Golden Quotes: ‘I admire him greatly for his persistence and never-say-die spirit. He experiences personal tragedy and career failure on a scale that few men ever experience. But defeat was obviously not a word that was not in his dictionary. He always persisted and throughout conducted himself with dignity and high moral standards. He ended up being one of the greatest American Presidents of all time.’

According to founder, Publisher, Writer, B. C. Forbes (1880 - 1854), ‘History has demonstrated that the most notable winners usually encountered heartbreaking obstacles before they triumphed. They won because they refused to become discouraged by their defeats.’

John Quincy Adams (1767 - 1848), sixth President of the USA) said, ‘Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish.’

The Swedish lawn tennis legend, Bjorn Borg, 2-time Player of the Year (1979 - 80), who won five straight Wimbledons (1976 - 80) and retired in 1983 at age 26 once said, ‘My greatest point is my persistence. I never give up in a match. However down I am, I fight until the last ball. My list of matches shows that I have turned great many so-called irretrievable defeats into victories.’

In my earthly journey, I’ve encountered tough times. It actually got to the point where I wanted to quite, cry, give up, raise the while flag of surrender and admit I couldn’t do it and had no heart. I reached an emotional low, the depth of which I didn’t think existed. Persevere? I didn’t have time for abstract concepts.

If you’ve been in this mental and spiritual disposition, I don’t envy you. However, I do have excellent news. There are corrective measures one can take to get back on the right track; corrective measures, which will assure that you, will persevere.

Top American Writer and Motivational Speaker, Kirk Charles, proposed a four-course line of action. The first is that, ‘you must immediately change your disposition. When you are in an unfavourable position, when you’re at the bottom, you’re also more powerful. Consider a wounded dog. When he’s hurt, he’s much more dangerous. If you dare touch him, you may have to pay a hefty price. When you’re wounded, the potency you possess must transform into a positive, internal energy flow. It should not be one that is threatening, but one that is electrifying and activating. Don’t fret and languish when times are tough; and especially don’t complain. You are in a powerful position because you probably do not have anything to lose. Take advantage of it and you will persevere.’

The second thing Kirk proposed is to take inventory of your assets. When you do this, it may surprise you how much you really have and how well you’ve done. This process will increase your morale. Get a pen and piece of paper and list all the positives you have in your life. Are you healthy? Do you have a family? Do you have skills? Whether you believe it or not, you possess something of vale. Years ago, I didn’t know I possessed writing skills. When I discovered it, I began to develop it. Consequently, I’ve been published. There is some dormant skill in you, waiting to be activated. Use those coattails to ride out of the current situation you’re in. When you decide to seek, find and develop whatever skill your Creator has endowed within you, you will persevere.

Third. You must understand cycles. During prosperous times, you must realise that tough times are going to come. Why? Because that’s life. Life, like the seasons, is cyclical. Every year, you can make a sure fire bet there will be a winter. You don’t know how severe it will be, but you do know that it will come.

But, winter doesn’t last forever. Spring, the season of new beginnings, follows winter, the season of despair. Spring is your opportunity to plant the seeds of success so, when winter comes around, you will be prepared for it. When opportunity knocks on your door, be prepared to embrace it and you will persevere.

The final according to Kirk is that you must pay your dues. Life is like going to the movies. You have to pay a price to enjoy the show. Inherent in paying the price is labour, struggle, uncertainty and risk. These components are the foundation of any worthwhile and rewarding endeavour. If you pay your dues, willingly, it will produce mental toughness, giving rise to strength and ardour, with which you will persevere.

You have to be persevering in other to achieve greatness in life. You must not attempt to run more than your legs. In all of life, there are sequential stages of growth and development. A child learns to turn over, to sit up, crawl and then to walk and run. Each step is important and each one takes time. I have a strong belief that if you can persevere, you will eventually get to your destination.

Dayo Olomu is a UK-based Motivational Speaker, Writer, Business/Life Coach, Trainer, Media Entrepreneur and Competent Toastmaster. His core belief is that we are all endowed with seeds of greatness, and his mission is to help individuals and organisations achieve their full potentials. He is the author of best selling “4 Indispensable Strategies for Success” and the President of Croydon Communicators Toastmasters. Get his FREE monthly Rise to the Top ezine by sending a blank email to subscribe@dayoolomu.com or visit his website at: www.dayoolomu.com

“Things is either done, or they ain’t done.” Marlon Sanders

Some of the greatest truths are the most obvious. But they are also the most overlooked. Many of us need to take a look at the importance of facing the facts and accepting that more usually needs to be done to complete whatever we are doing.

It is very easy to kid ourselves that we have done something or finished something when we haven’t. We need to be motivated by taking a thorough look at whatever we are doing to check that it really is finished and finished well. If you are tired and think you have already done a good job it is tempting to stop work before the job is properly completed.

Whenever I mowed the lawn and considered it mown, I could guarantee that my mother would be able to point out long grass at the edges of the lawn that had not been properly mown.

She was right; the lawn had not been properly cut at the edges. The job was not done. No job can ever be completed perfectly but it should be completed well enough to pass some scrutiny.

Recently, a parcel sent to me at No 19 arrived at No 9. The postman had not bothered to read the number properly. The people at No 9 had to finish his job for him. He had not delivered the mail.

A few months ago, I came across a great account by Martin Avis of a talk given by Marlon Sanders, the great internet guru, in Birmingham, UK in January 2005. My thanks to Martin for giving me permission to copy his account of this talk.

I heard Marlon myself some years ago in London and he knows how to hold an audience. Before he even started his talk, he arranged to have the whole audience blowing bubbles. By the time he started speaking everyone was relaxed and ready to listen.

In Birmingham, Marlon told his listeners to remember:

“There’s only two things that matter:

‘Things is either done, or they ain’t done.’

As Marlon spoke his voice became louder and louder:

“When sumthin’s done you gotta product, you gotta promotion, you got sumthin’ that’s gonna make you money.

“When it ain’t done, it don’t matter if its half done or nearly done or gonna get done someday - IT AIN’T DONE.”

The volume reached the point where people in the hotel next door started paying attention.

“And if it AIN’T DONE, it’s jack.

“DONE equals making money, sitting on the beach, taking long vacations and havin’ fun. DONE equals a smiley face.

“AIN’T DONE equals nothin’. No product, no vacation, no beach, no money and no fun. AIN’T DONE equals a sad face.”

Marlon smiled and knew his point was made.

He said a whole lot more in four hours of sessions over that weekend, but from that day forward the 35 people there will always think in terms of DONE or AIN’T DONE. (Martin’s account ends here.)

Simple but powerful stuff. As usual Marlon goes right to the heart of success.

Success has been described as both doing what you plan to do and also not doing what you plan not to do. It could also be described as “getting it done and not half done.”

Success and failure could be summed up in the immortal words “DONE or AIN’T DONE.”

John Watson is an award winning teacher and martial arts instructor. He has recently written two books about achieving your goals and dreams.

They can both be found on his website www.motivationtoday.com along with a daily motivational message.

The title of the first book is “36 Laws To Ignite Your Inner Power And Realize Your Dreams Now! - Acronyms, Stories, And Pictures…Easy To Remember And Use Everyday To Grab Your Life And Soar With The Eagles”

The book can be found at this URL: www.motivationtoday.com/36_laws.php

The book uses acronyms, stories and pictures to help readers remember 36 laws that can gradually transform your life if you apply them.

You are welcome to publish the article above in your ezine or on your website so long as you do not alter it and keep in the words about the author and the 36 Laws.